Mark Twain said this, "Forgiveness is the fragrance that the violet sheds upon the heel that crushes it." Yoko says she's not ready to forgive Chapman. That's OK, Yoko, but don't wait until you are ready. That is not the point of forgiveness.
On a related note, on this, the anniversary of Lennon's murder, I have been listening to the Beatles and pondering just how big an influence they have been on many of us, and especially me. Have you ever heard a three year old boy sing Elanor Rigby? Ahhh, look at all the lonely people... I did just last week as I was driving Jack somewhere. I got chills. Musically speaking, I can't think of too many other artists I would rather my kids be influenced by.